I Thought I Needed Help… But I Needed Rhythm

Shelby Davis
Sep 28
2 min read

For a long time, I thought what I needed most in this season was help. And let’s be clear — help was helpful. When my husband or mother-in-law stepped in, or when I had a nanny for a few hours, it gave me breathing room. But the problem was… it wasn’t consistent. I couldn’t build my whole life around waiting for help that may or may not come.

And that’s when it hit me: what I really needed wasn’t just help… it was rhythm.

When Help Isn’t Enough

I used to spend so much time asking, “When are you coming home?” or “Can you take the kids for a while?”And sometimes, yes, that was necessary. But what it did in me was create a habit of waiting to be rescued instead of learning how to create peace in my home and life myself.

It wasn’t until I started creating my own routines and rhythms that I realized — I was capable of more than I thought.

Building Rhythm Changed Everything

When I started to focus on rhythm instead of rescue, things shifted.

Here’s what that looked like for me:

Waking up before my kids — even 20 minutes made a difference.
Preparing the night before — laying out clothes, setting reminders.
Using my phone as a tool — Apple Reminders + Calendar keep me from carrying it all in my head.
Spreading out housework — instead of trying to do everything in one exhausting day, I broke it into a rhythm.

My Simple Rhythm (That Actually Works)

👩🏽‍👧 Daily Flow (Kids + Home Anchors):

Morning: breakfast → creative/work block
Midday: play + lunch → nap/quiet time
Afternoon: snack → activity block with kids
Evening: dinner + light chores → family wind-down

🏡 Weekly Household Rhythm:

Daily: 1 load laundry, make beds, wipe counters
Monday: reset from weekend
Tuesday: bedrooms + floors
Wednesday: bathrooms
Thursday: catch-up day
Friday: living room reset
Sunday: meal plan + grocery run

This isn’t about being perfect. Some weeks I miss a day or swap things around. But overall, it’s given me the peace and structure I used to think only extra help could provide.

The Truth God Showed Me

God reminded me in Psalm 37:23–24:“The Lord makes firm the steps of the one who delights in Him; though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the Lord upholds him with His hand.”

I didn’t need to wait for someone to carry me through motherhood and marriage. He already gave me what I needed — I just had to take the first step and build a rhythm.

What To Take Away

Sis, if you’ve been waiting for someone to step in and save you, hear me: help is great, but it won’t build your foundation. Rhythm will.

Start small. Prep the night before. Fold one load of laundry. Write one reminder down instead of holding it all in your head. Then do it again tomorrow.

You don’t need perfection to thrive in your home. You just need rhythm.

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